Writers’ Paradise

Here are just a few examples of the possible long-term consequences of ignoring bullying behavior. Victims are more likely to: -under-achieve because their self-esteem has been knocked and energy is being wasted on negative emotions such as resentment, guilt and fear. - suffer physical symptoms of stress such as headaches, sickness, muscle tension - turn their anger inwards and become depressed and cynical - avoid or cope badly in situations where they meet figures of authority - over-conform - become well-practised at hiding their true feelings and therefore less able to have satisfying intimate relationships - hide their talent for fear of creating envy in others - become reclusive and eventually lonely - develop a belief that there is little point in fighting any kind of injustice - become bullies themselves Bullies are likely to: - continue bullying throughout their life - eventually become lonely and socially ostracized - suffer low self-esteem and inner angst in spite of any external signs to the contrary - become depressed and cynical about the world and act in accordance with these beliefs - turn to criminality - become more angry and/or disillusioned and consequently a serious danger to themselves and to others

Most people have been bullied at some time in their lives. If you are being bullied its not your fault-the bully is the one with the problem. However, it’s necessary to take action.

• Find a teacher, parent or other adult you trust, and tell them exactly what is happening. They don’t necessarily have to get involved or even speak to the bully. Just sharing the problem will make you feel better, and they can support you, advise you and help you stand up for yourself. Most schools have strict policies on bullying and your teachers will have a lot of experience of dealing with the problem.

• Practise looking and sounding confident. Bullies are usually cowards who pick on people that they think are weaker than themselves. Stand up tall and hold your head up high when you walk around school. Speak in a clear, strong voice and look people straight in the eye.

• Whenever possible, ignore any behavior that is intended to make you feel scared or bad about yourself. Convince the bully that you are not bothered by them or hurt by their remarks-they will quickly get bored and leave you alone.

• Try to think ways to deal with difficult situations before they occur. Practise things that you could say to someone taunting you. Crying or shouting usually only makes things worse, whereas a clever, casual remark, will make you seem confident and in control. Always try to remain calm and be reasonable.

• Bullies won’t pick someone who is surrounded by supportive friends. Keep an eye out for people who often seem to be alone and make an effort to get to know them. This way you will make lots of new friends and keep the bullies at bay.

No one deserved to be bullied. Don’t give in to a bully, don’t encourage a bully, and never, ever be a bully yourself.